在宋干节,怀念起在泰国当村姑的日子

今天刮大风,穿得少,被冻的指甲都发紫了,但是看到朋友圈里留在清迈的朋友发的宋干节照片,那热力似乎能透过手机屏幕传过来,感觉身边的温度都高了好几度。

去过老挝和缅甸旅行,在清迈住了一年,旅行的时候忙着观光,旅居的时候被工作烦扰,都不能算是百分百地自得其乐。真正感受到东南亚的魅力却是在回国之后了,在某个寒冷的冬日,在被周围稍许干涩的环境无预警地包裹起来的时候,才恍然大悟为什么那么多西方人喜欢在东南亚或猎奇或养老,因为那里就是可以让你慢地忘记了时间和空间,让你热地昏了头脑。是的,在日常生活中我们过于依赖头脑和自己的判断,活的谨小慎微瞻前顾后。 但是在那里咸湿的空气可以让你把条条框框都丢掉。 你不用像在欧洲旅行时那样拿着书参观博物馆想着某件作品究竟该如何解读或是那些建筑到底属于哪个流派,你也不用像在国内徒步壮丽山河时那样饱受身体的不适和旅途的奔波。 你只需要在一个路边的小馆子来一碗冬阴功再来一杯便宜地要死的冰鲜榨果汁,然后就可以丢掉地图丢掉攻略信马由缰四处溜达,小地方,迷路了都是惊喜,还有热情的当地人开车送你回去;或者什么也不错晒一天太阳发一天呆看街上人来人往,不用去做泰式按摩,你就已经进入了放空状态。有个gay蜜说他在国内很少穿短裤背心,总觉得如芒在背,可是 在那里就可以想穿啥就穿啥顺便接受大妈的赞美。其实我也是,我在那里除了上班或是参加一些活动,其余时间都不用在穿什么上花费脑细胞,背心,短裤,人字拖,that’s all. 不用想搭配造型神马的,再村的样子都能被周围的环境很好地包容。 同样的衣服穿在上海街头就相当奇怪。 在那里的时候传照片上朋友圈经常被说你好像泰妹啊,呵呵, 其实我挺享受那样村姑的状态的。

当然,这是理想状态。因为旅行时受时间所限,贪心的我们总想去更多,看更多,免不了走马观花不愿意“浪费”时间。就连我这个住了一年的人,其实这样无所事事的时间也没有很多,现在都想不起那些个周末都花在哪里了。前阵子和在曼谷工作的新加坡朋友聊天,我问他,曼谷那么好玩,你每周都出去hang out吧,他回我hang个鬼哦,上班累的要死,周末只想宅在家,呵呵。 我对他说,珍惜在那里的时光吧, 回来后你会狠狠念想的,就像现在的我一样。

my housemate

People say that if lovers or friends can survive from either living together or traveling together, then they can be lovers and friends for a life time.  We survived from both, not saying that we worked together for more than one year and now we are learning driving together.

Obviously  we are totally different people. I am a morning person but you can sleep until afternoon if not heading for work. I like all these Chinese culture and food while you are not interested at all. (Sometimes I think even an ABC is more like a Chinese than you.) I see freedom as the top of my life but you try to prove yourself by working hard.

I think the reason we can get it through and get to know each other better and better is because that we both respect each other and leave some space between us. And to respect is not just saying you don’t say something offensive, this is the minimum requirement, it involves more than that including to put your feet in other’s shoes, to understand the circumstances behind one’s behavior and words. Never push other to do something he or she not comfortable with. Don’t try to be right all the time. I realize that this is necessary for all the relationship especially for people live together. If couples can manage to do that and think about how I can love and care my partner more rather than getting more, Then marriage can be amazing.

Like I wrote on your birthday card, I really appreciate the time we have been together. Thanks for tolerating me in many places and I learned a lot from you such as how to treat your life more seriously from by doing small things carefully.

Cheers! My dear Dino.

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Talking about the pictures, this is the one of the limited days we can share a wonderful day together having lunch in nice restaurant without rushing to work afterwords, watching a movie in the theater, going to a lecture, shopping in a supermarket and going home watching movie again!!! It of course worth being remembered, isn’t it?

 

四月了

一转眼四月了。气温终于爬到一个全年最舒服的点,史上最冷没有之一的冬天终于一去不复返了,对于一个终极宅女来说,这是一个让人有了想买美美的家居服的季节啊。三月回了趟家,烫了头发,重新拍了身份证照片,逛了博物馆,陪陪家人,回无锡。

1. 这应该是我第三次烫头发,现在回看以前带刘海的卷发真是不知道说啥好,真的很奇怪,以前的我难以想象自己没有刘海的样子,因为觉得自己的额头太高发髻线又靠后有刘海遮挡就好很多。可是现在的我又难以想象自己有刘海的样子了,觉得有了刘海人就显得不够精神。容貌其实没有大变化,变的是气质吧。Anyway,找到靠谱的发型师也是很重要的,因为合适的发型能给人自信啊,这难道不比找到一个男朋友更令人激动么?

2. 虽然回上海,可是因为晚上还是要上班,所以能见的朋友不多,连着两天都和Anne还有Even见面。Even的病基本得到控制了,在家休养了大半年的她果然气色好了很多,一扫以前的黄气,白里透红看着精神。病一场,性格也翻天覆地,她变的更豁达更宽容更淡然了,从这个意义上来说,这场病也算是她的福报吧。也是这次聊天才知道她那时候家里和工作上都发生了很多事,足以颠覆她从小到大养成的世界观,所以那段时间特别low。所以我们现在都认为身体的病都和情绪有关,压抑久的东西需要一个渠道排解,身体就成了替罪羔羊,所以,管好你的嘴和心,身体就差不到哪去。我想起前几天和一个在内蒙认识的男生聊天,印象中他是个挺小气的it男吧,也很喜欢摄影。偶热在微博或者微信上有些些互动,仅此而已。这次才知道他已经低调地结婚了,原因是他妈妈已经植物人很久了…… 他说只要有能力就维持着她的生命迹象吧,钱,身不带来死不带去……呵呵,所以大家都渐渐地,在各个生活炸弹下长大了,也都学会了报喜不报忧。

会去逛博物馆是因为在听蒋勋老师的《中国美术史》,不过发现还是需要下次一个人去,才能静下心来好好感受这几千年前的美吧。和朋友在一起就静不下心来啊,草草离开后去莱富士吃炸鸡倒是很爽很爽啊,垃圾食品真是能给人带来无限快感啊,当然只限偶尔吃吃。

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按照我现在的班表,一个月只有四个晚上可以外出溜达,一年也就48个这样的晚上,所以每一个不上课的晚上都值得被好好度过啊,好久没有去咖啡馆小坐啦,小资的感觉就和垃圾食品一样,多了就腻,偶尔为之就很幸福呢。

 

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最后放两张和阿娘的selfi😄。你要好好的哦。

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